Comments on: Held by the leg and the heart http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/ "Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them." - Albert Einstein Mon, 26 Jul 2010 22:12:38 -0600 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: T with Honey http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-92147 T with Honey Mon, 25 Aug 2008 15:58:04 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-92147 Came here from 5 Minutes for Parenting... My mother is a handicapped widow and I am her only child. I have to choose every day to work full time and put my daughter in child care or become a SAHM and put my mother in a nursing home of the government's choosing. There are days when I want to crawl into a ball and cry because I feel I don't get enough time with my little girl but when I am able to go back home and she can play in the house and yard I grew up in and stay overnight at her Grandma's house I know that I made the right decision for our family. I too, do not want Princess to have to make the same awful choice as an adult. So I work and we eek out every precious moment of togetherness on the weekend and every weeknight. Princess knows that her mommy loves her, I stay involved with day care and know her teachers. I am very much her mommy and the one raising her even though I spend my days at the office. I understand what you put so beautifully into words in this post. We're not alone in being mothers that happen to work full time. Came here from 5 Minutes for Parenting…

My mother is a handicapped widow and I am her only child. I have to choose every day to work full time and put my daughter in child care or become a SAHM and put my mother in a nursing home of the government’s choosing. There are days when I want to crawl into a ball and cry because I feel I don’t get enough time with my little girl but when I am able to go back home and she can play in the house and yard I grew up in and stay overnight at her Grandma’s house I know that I made the right decision for our family.

I too, do not want Princess to have to make the same awful choice as an adult. So I work and we eek out every precious moment of togetherness on the weekend and every weeknight. Princess knows that her mommy loves her, I stay involved with day care and know her teachers. I am very much her mommy and the one raising her even though I spend my days at the office.

I understand what you put so beautifully into words in this post. We’re not alone in being mothers that happen to work full time.

]]> By: Beck http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-92109 Beck Sun, 24 Aug 2008 12:28:46 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-92109 This was beautifully put. And it's so hard, financially, for so many families. I know how much we struggle, and I know many, many families who only keep their heads above water by having both parents work. This was beautifully put.
And it’s so hard, financially, for so many families. I know how much we struggle, and I know many, many families who only keep their heads above water by having both parents work.

]]> By: Steph @ Problem Solvin' Mom http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-92095 Steph @ Problem Solvin' Mom Sun, 24 Aug 2008 02:10:37 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-92095 Very well said. I am in a very similar situation, and it is such a difficult, heartwrenching, complicated decision. Steph Very well said. I am in a very similar situation, and it is such a difficult, heartwrenching, complicated decision.

Steph

]]> By: Adventures In Babywearing http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-92064 Adventures In Babywearing Sat, 23 Aug 2008 11:19:25 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-92064 I think you said it so well, but wish you didn't have to explain yourself at all. Unfortunately I think there are many (especially moms) that need to see your perspective. Steph I think you said it so well, but wish you didn’t have to explain yourself at all. Unfortunately I think there are many (especially moms) that need to see your perspective.

Steph

]]> By: You Moved Us http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-92048 You Moved Us Sat, 23 Aug 2008 04:05:21 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-92048 [...] at My Level of Awareness writes poignantly in her post "Held by the leg and the heart" about the hard economic realities that make her a working mom, and the love for her son that [...] [...] at My Level of Awareness writes poignantly in her post "Held by the leg and the heart" about the hard economic realities that make her a working mom, and the love for her son that [...]

]]> By: midlife mommy http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-91843 midlife mommy Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:00:42 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-91843 I think you just did (explain that is). Someday, he will read your words and understand. I think you just did (explain that is). Someday, he will read your words and understand.

]]> By: Susan/ Jerusha http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-91740 Susan/ Jerusha Wed, 20 Aug 2008 22:24:36 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-91740 Tom is 20 now, and my heart still hurts at that. I wasn't working, but leaving him in Kindergarten so that I could do Grad School. There is nothing on this earth that eats at you like that cry. :-( And I know exactly what you mean about security. I graduated the December after I turned 54 -- and I've got a boatload of student loans. I don't want to leave him with that! Tom is 20 now, and my heart still hurts at that. I wasn’t working, but leaving him in Kindergarten so that I could do Grad School. There is nothing on this earth that eats at you like that cry. :-(

And I know exactly what you mean about security. I graduated the December after I turned 54 — and I’ve got a boatload of student loans. I don’t want to leave him with that!

]]> By: Maysun http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-91527 Maysun Tue, 19 Aug 2008 20:42:38 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-91527 Days like that make you feel like your heart is being ripped out. I wish -- and sounds like you do too -- that there was an easy way to find balance between all the facets of a mom's life. Days like that make you feel like your heart is being ripped out.

I wish — and sounds like you do too — that there was an easy way to find balance between all the facets of a mom’s life.

]]> By: Deirdre http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-91359 Deirdre Mon, 18 Aug 2008 20:46:47 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-91359 You are making (every day) a reasoned, considered decision and anyone who assumes that you are doing this with a disregard for your child, simply doesn't know YOU. Bri you are amazing. hugs, Deirdre You are making (every day) a reasoned, considered decision and anyone who assumes that you are doing this with a disregard for your child, simply doesn’t know YOU.

Bri you are amazing.

hugs,

Deirdre

]]> By: OS http://mylevelofawareness.com/2008/08/15/held-by-the-leg-and-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-91347 OS Mon, 18 Aug 2008 12:37:43 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/?p=430#comment-91347 It's hard not to judge other mothers by our own experiences. There are so many hard decisions, seems as if there is a new one every day. I'm sure Harry will understand that one day. Because of the carefully made decisions that you keep making. He's a great kid and you and Kris are great parents. It’s hard not to judge other mothers by our own experiences. There are so many hard decisions, seems as if there is a new one every day. I’m sure Harry will understand that one day. Because of the carefully made decisions that you keep making. He’s a great kid and you and Kris are great parents.

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