Comments on: The lingering pain of failure http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/ "Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them." - Albert Einstein Sat, 18 Feb 2012 06:46:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: William McNaughton http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-1625 William McNaughton Mon, 26 Feb 2007 19:56:16 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/#comment-1625 I don't know if it's being male or being a non-parent. But when someone bites the slop out of you, it just doesn't seem unreasonable that they get smacked. Will Guy, Non-Parent I don’t know if it’s being male or being a non-parent. But when someone bites the slop out of you, it just doesn’t seem unreasonable that they get smacked.

Will
Guy, Non-Parent

]]> By: bubandpie http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-1122 bubandpie Thu, 04 Jan 2007 18:53:25 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/#comment-1122 Oh, Robbin. This post brought tears to my eyes. You know already that the effect on your son is momentary, transitory - but it's hard to live through those moments when motherhood holds that Picture of Dorian Grey up to our faces. My mother is still haunted by the day she spanked me so hard that I cried until I threw up. I think I was maybe three. But I have no memory of this incident, and a close relationship with my mother who in all the ways that matter has set an example that I'll be overjoyed if I can live up to. Oh, Robbin. This post brought tears to my eyes. You know already that the effect on your son is momentary, transitory – but it’s hard to live through those moments when motherhood holds that Picture of Dorian Grey up to our faces.

My mother is still haunted by the day she spanked me so hard that I cried until I threw up. I think I was maybe three. But I have no memory of this incident, and a close relationship with my mother who in all the ways that matter has set an example that I’ll be overjoyed if I can live up to.

]]> By: Tara http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-1116 Tara Thu, 04 Jan 2007 11:30:54 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/#comment-1116 I've done something very, very similar, when ds was breastfeeding and bit me... it was such a reflex, but fortunately like you my brain caught up with my hand before the strike so it was pretty much nothing. I’ve done something very, very similar, when ds was breastfeeding and bit me… it was such a reflex, but fortunately like you my brain caught up with my hand before the strike so it was pretty much nothing.

]]> By: veronica http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-1112 veronica Wed, 03 Jan 2007 23:25:45 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/#comment-1112 I weaned my daughter at nine months because she bit me every time she nursed. Bit and clamped on. Clamped on and grinned while I screamed. I weaned her because I was always so desperate to get this painful beartrap off my nipple that I was afraid I might hurt her one day. Like you said - it is instinctive. So we've all been there. You are not a failure as a mommy. You are just human, and in this instance did not live up to the Perfect Mommy myth that none of us live up to either. I weaned my daughter at nine months because she bit me every time she nursed. Bit and clamped on. Clamped on and grinned while I screamed. I weaned her because I was always so desperate to get this painful beartrap off my nipple that I was afraid I might hurt her one day. Like you said – it is instinctive.

So we’ve all been there. You are not a failure as a mommy. You are just human, and in this instance did not live up to the Perfect Mommy myth that none of us live up to either.

]]> By: Sheila http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-1111 Sheila Wed, 03 Jan 2007 17:19:25 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/#comment-1111 I had a smack like that. I completely didn't mean too, I was nursing, baby was teething and I got bit. I said no and popped baby at about the same time, not hard, but enough to feel I had no point in being a mommy. Thank God they are forgiving. I had a smack like that. I completely didn’t mean too, I was nursing, baby was teething and I got bit. I said no and popped baby at about the same time, not hard, but enough to feel I had no point in being a mommy. Thank God they are forgiving.

]]> By: jodi http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-1110 jodi Wed, 03 Jan 2007 16:46:26 +0000 http://mylevelofawareness.com/2007/01/03/the-lingering-pain-of-failure/#comment-1110 Oh, don't beat yourself up too much. It happens. And those bites hurt. Michael bites me, hites me, tugs at my hair. I've never hit him but I grabbed him once hard and yelled in his face, "no bitting." I felt so bad afterwards. Oh, don’t beat yourself up too much. It happens. And those bites hurt. Michael bites me, hites me, tugs at my hair. I’ve never hit him but I grabbed him once hard and yelled in his face, “no bitting.” I felt so bad afterwards.

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